When a baby is breastfeeding correctly his tongue will cover his lower gum ridge or teeth (if he has teeth yet) and he will not be able to “bite” the breast without biting the underside of his own tongue. Not only this, his mother’s nipple will be deep in his mouth, safe from being bitten. However, if a baby is not using his tongue correctly or is in a shallow latch, it can feel like a baby is biting or clamping on the nipple. Later, especially during teething, some older babies may literally bite down on the nipple at some point during a feed. This is usually unintentional, they don’t know it will hurt! Depending on the reasons it happens or the reaction they get, this might become a game or a habit for a while.
Newborn baby biting while breastfeeding
Older baby biting while breastfeeding
As it is biologically normal for a child to breastfeed for a few years, breastfeeding with teeth isn’t usually a problem. A baby can’t bite if he is feeding properly (explained above) and not all babies go through a phase of biting anyway. For those that do, biting usually happens while latching on at the start of a feed, during a break in the feed, or at the end of a breastfeed when they are falling asleep or feeling full. Some babies can tend to rest their top teeth on the breast during a feed causing indentations in the breast.
Most cases of biting can be stopped by either preventing a bite by watching very closely for the moment baby changes his tongue position or by teaching a baby that biting hurts.
Step one: preventing a bite
By giving your baby your focused attention and minimising distractions, biting can often be prevented. Watch for the moment your baby wriggles around or brings his tongue back to get ready to bite and be ready to stop the feed. You can do this by slipping your finger between his gums to keep them apart while you remove your nipple and break the latch.
Try to notice in which situations your baby tends to bite and avoid them. Examples include:
- At the start of a feed when baby is very hungry (try to initiate a let down before he comes to the breast).
- During a feed when the milk flow slows (try breast compression to increase flow).
- At the end of a feed when baby is very full or very tired (be ready to break the latch if he goes to bite).
- When trying to get your attention (keep your attention on your baby!)
- When positioning is not as good as it used to be (check Breastfeeding Videos and Latching Tips).
For more ideas see “Why do babies bite?” below.
Step two: teaching a baby that biting hurts
If your baby nips you despite your attempts to prevent it; many mothers have found quickly and calmly ending the feed helps their baby understand biting is unacceptable. You could also try putting your baby down in a safe place, for example on the floor at your feet for a few minutes. If baby starts to cry, you can offer another breastfeed but end the feed again if they try to bite. You can explain to your baby that it hurts and you don’t like it but do so calmly, without shouting or screaming. Even young babies can quickly pick up on what is expected realising “When I bite, mom ends the feed”.
Jack Newman Canadian paediatrician and breastfeeding expert explains:
Bring the baby close to you like when you were feeding him as a newborn. This often works. If not, try not to startle him too much, but just tell him no, gently but firmly. If he keeps it up, then ease him off the breast gently and let him understand that the feeding is over. (Slip your finger into the corner of his mouth so that he doesn’t bite down on the nipple to prevent you from removing it!) Just as he can understand that he can’t pull hair, he can understand at this age that biting is not acceptable. Usually your baby will stop this behaviour after a couple of times of being gently and firmly told it’s not okay.
Some mothers have found that praising their baby when they feed nicely without biting can work well, after all your baby isn’t trying to hurt you on purpose.
Distracting a baby by offering a teething toy, starting a game, going for a walk outside or taking baby for a splash in the bath can sometimes help.
Why do babies bite?
Knowing the reason for biting can help to stop it. There are several theories put forward to explain a phase of biting including teething pain, being poorly, frustration with low milk supply, attention seeking and poor positioning.
Painful gums during teething can bring a desire to chew on things or to try different sucking techniques during feeding. Teething babies won’t realise there is a difference between teething rings and a breast or nipple, at least not until you help them realise by Steps One and Two (see above). Try offering a teething toy between feeds to soothe sore gums and see Kelly Bonyata’s article on Teething.
Sometimes a mother may notice unexplained nipple soreness during teething without necessarily being bitten. This may be due to the way a baby scrapes his teeth along the breast or because of a baby’s extra saliva during teething. The Womanly Art of Breastfeeding suggests:
When some babies start actively teething, their saliva seems to increase and become more acidic. This can cause a rash on their face, on their bottom, or on your areola. Rinsing breast, bottom, and face a few times a day can help.
Frustration at the start of a feed or with slow milk flow
Jack Newman believes the most common reason for biting is frustration with slow flow and has tips for this in a chapter of Dr. Jack Newman’s Guide to Breastfeeding.
Older babies can wriggle around a lot and latch in all sorts of ways. Try to check latch and positioning because a bad latch can affect milk flow. If biting happens at the start of a feed due to frustration waiting for the let down, try to get milk flowing before your baby feeds by hand expression. To help with slow flow during a feed use breast compressions and offer both breasts per feed.
At the end of a feed
Once a baby is full but still wide awake he may take the opportunity to play around and accidentally bite the nipple. Alternatively as a baby falls asleep at the breast, he might slip into a shallow latch and if anything should startle him in this position he may bite down. In both situations try easing him off the breast as soon as possible after finishing the feed to prevent accidents.
Game playing and attention seeking
Around seven to nine months in particular your little one may accidentally nip you with his brand new teeth or some babies seem to bite for attention. Try to avoid jumping and shouting excessively because if your baby thinks this is a good game, he may decide to try biting again for your entertaining reaction. Equally, too strong a reaction has frightened some babies so much that they were scared to breastfeed in case it happened again. This is sometimes called a nursing strike. (If this happens, try some of the ideas in How to Get Baby Back to the Breast). Staying focused on your baby will meet his need for attention as you watch for signs that he might be thinking of biting and try Steps One and Two above.
Your baby may have outgrown a previous feeding position and need more room to get a good latch without clamping down. If you have previously always used a breastfeeding pillow now might be the time you no longer need it. Try to go back to basics being very careful about getting a deep latch and good positioning.
A baby with a cold who can’t breathe well, can’t feed well and may accidentally bite. Or he may have ear ache and just feel poorly causing him to breastfeed differently.
A baby doesn’t realise he can’t do the same chewy things on the breast as he does on a bottle teat, dummy (pacifier) or spout of a cup. Some mothers find it helps to avoid spouted sippy cups and artificial nipples while others think babies can quickly learn the difference with a little help from Steps One and Two above.
When Baby Won’t Let Go
If your baby bites down and refuses to let go, Kelly Bonyata has the following suggestion:
If your baby bites down and doesn’t let go (most let go immediately without mom doing anything), there are a couple of things you can do: First, quickly place your finger between baby’s gums so you can pull away without (more) injury. If that doesn’t work, pull baby TOWARD you, very close to your breast. This will make it a little hard to breathe, so baby will automatically let go to open her mouth more and uncover her nose to breathe. A variation of this that some moms use is to gently pinch baby’s nose closed for just a second to get her to open her mouth and release the nipple.
The above article also has tips from other mothers and how to deal with the baby who digs his teeth into your breast or nipple.
For sore nipple care see What Can I Put on Sore Nipples?
A passing phase
For most babies biting is a passing phase and doesn’t have to mean the end of breastfeeding.